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The Adoption Process from a Foster Kids Perspective
March 11, 2015 | By Chris Perez

If you have considered adopting a foster child, it's an admirable action that could change the life of a

child. As a child who was once in foster care, I know there are children of all ages who are anxiously

awaiting loving adoptive parents.


Adoption from foster care together we rise

According to recent adoption statistics, there are more than 400,000 children in the U.S. foster care

system, and approximately 25 percent of those children are waiting for child adoption and permanent

placement. The average age of a foster child is nine years old, and the average time a child spends in the

foster care system is over two years. Foster care and foster parents help to provide loving homes, but

children, just like me, hope for permanent adoption.

How Do Foster Kids View Adoption?

As a young child age four to six in foster care, I was excited about the idea of being adopted by a family.

Although I didn't remember much about my past, I knew I wanted to have a real mom and dad. Many

children who enter foster care lose contact with their birth parents, physical surroundings, and

sometimes even their siblings. They often struggle with feelings of trust, insecurity and emotional

stability, prompting many unanswered questions. Will my birth parents come for me? How long will I be

here? How long will I stay with my foster family before I'm adopted? Will I ever be adopted?

Between the ages of four to six, I was only in two foster homes, both with caring families. Some children

placed in foster care, especially older kids who have been in the system a while, may be moved to

different foster homes quite often. This movement can create a sense of loss that happens over and

over again. According to the North American Council on Adoptable Children (NACAC), it's essential for

adoptive parents to be sensitive to the impact of loss, lack of trust and feelings of insecurity that some

foster kids deal with on a daily basis.

These foster kids may require time for emotional healing to restore feelings of security, trust and well-

being, so adoptive parents should be patient. As an adoptive parent, your kindness and good intentions

may be foreign to your child, and even though your intentions and actions are healthy, they may not be

embraced immediately or in the way you hope and expect. All foster kids want and need loving parents,

but adjusting to something they've never experienced may take time.

Most foster kids, like me, welcome adoption and look forward to a better life with a loving family, but

it's important for adoptive parents to understand the child's wants and needs to build a stable life for

the family. Although adopting a foster child is a formal process that can take time, the end result is

certainly worthwhile for everyone concerned. My adoptive parents changed my life, and I wouldn't

trade them for anything. For more information on Foster Care and adoption, contact your state's Foster

Care Agency

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